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Dear Dr. Sue,
I consider myself a creative person and love to write. Unfortunately, when I am about three-quarters of the way through with something, I start to get all these ideas about other projects. I then find it very hard to find the energy to complete the project I was working on because it is much more fun to start something new. Help!
Distressed and Incomplete
Dear Distressed,
There are a number of emotionally based reasons why writers are tempted to abandon a project partway through, and I'll discuss some of these below. First, though, have you ruled out the possibility of attention deficit disorder? If you have difficulty organizing and managing your time generally, and find that you lose track of other important projects (for example, if you chronically forget to answer email or return phone calls that aren't related to your writing or to promoting your work; if you are always losing your keys or your phone; or if your home or checkbook remains chaotic despite efforts to impose order) you may wish to consult a neuropsychologist or psychiatrist. As writers, we tend to look for the deeper, symbolic meaning underlying every conflict, and in my experience this is a valid way to proceed. However, it's often best to rule out the simpler explanations first.
If your distractability is confined to your creative endeavors, you may wish to explore what the consequences--real or imagined--might be of actually bringing a project to successful completion. (Check out my book for visualization exercises that facilitate this.) Some writers uncover a fear that outstanding achievement or public recognition will come at a high cost--that their success will threaten a romantic partner or make them a target for the envy of less successful peers or family members. While on a conscious level they want to succeed, they are held back by fear of abandonment or reprisal. Others discover that a seeming inability to complete a project allows them to postpone dealing with a problematic situation that is waiting in the wings. If they were to achieve closure in their creative work, they might have to face a deteriorating relationship or unresolved grief that has been allowed to simmer on the back burner while they worry about finishing a book or essay.
When these conflicts are brought to the surface, they often lose their power over our creative output. Either we realize that the feared conflict is not nearly as threatening as it seemed--our friends or loved ones may make some snarky comments about oversized egos, but they won't actually hate or abandon us--or that the issue that was masked by our procrastination needs serious, immediate attention. In either case, the conflict usually ceases to contaminate our ability to work.
Some writers are perfectionists. The initial inspiration for a project promises the opportunity to achieve flawless brilliance. As we approach the end, however, we are usually forced to acknowledge that the finished work will fall somewhat short of our ideal. Most of us have an inner voice that tells us when we have done our best with a given work; that it is time to either wrap it up or give it up. Perfectionists tend to ignore this voice. Not finishing allows us to sustain the illusion that if and when we do complete it, it will be as perfect as we had envisioned it. If this is an issue for you, try to think of your writing career as a whole as a quest for profundity and perfection, with each discrete work an important step in that direction. Accepting that we're human, that we will make mistakes, and that sometimes we'll fail--and that none of this disqualifies us as writers or creative individuals--is vital in taking risks and unleashing our deeper creativity.
You may also wish to try scaling down the scope of your projects a bit. A sweeping family saga or three-volume biography may seem, in prospect, like the ideal expression of your vision, but even the most privileged writers--those whose advances or trust funds obviate the need for day jobs, and who can rely on a support staff to keep the household running--find it hard to sustain energy for a huge undertaking amidst the competing demands and stimuli of twenty-first-century life. Dream as large as you like, but when it's time to glue your posterior to the computer chair, ask yourself what it is realistic to expect given your other responsibilities and interests. It's usually preferable to complete a shorter work than to curate a disc full of huge, ambitious projects that would be smashingly brilliant if only you would finish them.
Finally, try to keep your WIP to yourself as much as possible. Writing can be lonely work, and it's tempting to try to populate our solitary worlds by discussing a current project or showing incomplete drafts to friends. Naturally, if you feel stuck, need technical advice, or think you may be missing the mark in a given chapter or passage, you will want to share the relevant parts with a trusted friend, teacher, or critique group. Do this sparingly, though. The unconscious doesn't distinguish well between oral description of a work and the work itself. It is thus actually possible to "talk a project to death"--our unconscious mind considers it done, and starts egging us on to the next item on the agenda.
Susan O'Doherty, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with a New York City-based practice. A fiction writer herself, she specializes in issues affecting writers and other creative artists. Her book, Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: A Woman's Guide to Unblocking Creativity, is now available in bookstores. Send your questions to her at Dr.Sue at mindspring dot com.
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