I’m
often asked how I came to write “Look Me in the Eye.” This is the story.
As my
readers know, I’ve had an unusual life. It began with a crazy home
environment, which I left behind at age sixteen when I joined a local
band. Within a few years, I found myself on the road with the biggest
tour of the decade – KISS. Having reached the top of the world in music,
I quit to work as an engineer in a toy company. But a few years later, I
left that behind, too, when I quit electronics to repair cars in my driveway.
And over the next decade I built that business into the largest independent Land Rover, Rolls Royce and Bentley specialty shop in New England. In the midst of that, I discovered
photography, with my photos landing in galleries, museums, on record jackets
and on billboards. And to top it all off, I began writing articles for
car magazines.
With
all those things going on, there wasn’t much time for book writing. And
what would I write about, anyway? I’d become a husband, a father, a
businessman, a restorer of classic cars, a conservative figure in a small New England town. What could be more ordinary?
Sure,
my earlier life was unusual, but to tell the truth, I was ashamed of it. Being
a high school dropout, and doing all those weird things . . . what would people
think of me if they knew?
So
I went on, restoring cars, leaving my past safely buried.
And
then my brother wrote a book. He called it Running
With Scissors.
Being
a loyal brother, I put his book on the counter at Robison Service.
Customers would come in and say, “What’s that book doing there?” “It’s by
my brother,” I answered. After a moment’s hesitation, I continued with,
“It’s about our childhood.”
I was
proud of my brother, but I cringed every time someone bought his book. They’ll
never speak to me again, when they find out what we’re really like, I
thought. But the opposite happened. “I can’t believe you’ve done so
well after what you went through,” people said. Far from being horrified,
readers were inspired. I began to see that my story was not shameful at
all. I started speaking to groups of troubled young people, at
Brightside, and the jail, and in halfway houses.
With
the success of my brother’s book and people’s response to our youth, my shame
and fear of my past slipped away.
Meanwhile,
my brother continued to write one bestseller after another. I’d go with
him to book signings, and to our surprise, I remained the one constant topic of
questions from the audience. “You should write your own story,” he’d say,
and I began to believe he was right.
Then
my father got sick.
Somehow,
I knew he was going to die. And I was angry, because I did not have a
single happy memory of my childhood with him. I drove to the hospital,
determined to confront him.
“Can
you tell me about any fun times we had when I was little?” I was afraid
to ask. What if the answer was, “No.” What would I do then?
But
it wasn’t “no.” He was full of memories, and as he talked, the memories began
coming back to me, too. Flying a kite at Valley Forge park. Seeing
the Old Faithful geyser. Camping among the redwood forest. Seeing
the glaciers, and playing in the snow. I remembered it all.
After
my father died, I wrote an essay. I showed it to my brother, and he put
it on his web site. It’s still there, at www.augusten.com
> special projects > essay by my brother. To our surprise, it
became the most downloaded content on the site. Book editors and
reporters began calling his agent. I resolved to write a book, and I knew
– from the questions at my brother’s appearances – that it had to talk about
Asperger’s and how it’s affected me.
“How
will I do that?” I asked my brother. “I’m not a shrink. What
do I know?”
“It’s
easy,” he said. “Just write your bizarre stories like you told them to me
when I was small. Everyone will see what’s wrong with you. It will be
obvious.” And that’s what I did.
The
result astounded me. The biggest publishers in the world wanted to
produce my book, and when I chose the Crown imprint of Random House, they put
the best people in the business on my project. The book was acclaimed by
advance reviewers, and it became an instant NY Times bestseller. A few
days later, it went on sale in Australia , and it
was an instant hit there, too. Two months after my debut, Look Me in
the Eye has been reprinted eight times on two continents, with 150,000
copies in print.
Today,
my book is on display in the Random House lobby. It’s any writer’s dream
come true. There it is, next to the fall bestsellers from Bill Clinton, Nicholas Sparks,
John Grisham, Jonathan
Kellerman, Ann Coulter, Barack Obama, Alan Alda, and Cesar Millan
The
response to my book is just amazing. I thought I’d written a book that
showed how different Aspergians are. But thousands of letters from
readers told the opposite story. They said Look Me in the Eye
shows how, deep down, people are all the same. However people see it, I’m proud
to have written my story, and I’m hard at work on the sequel.
And
that is the story behind the story.
Learn more about John Elder Robison's work by visiting his website.

